Essence: When Sex Becomes Murder

Earlier this week, a Dallas man was arrested for murdering his mistress after she confessed that she was HIV positive. Larry Dunn Jr., who is married with children, met Cicely Bolden, a mother of two, in an Internet chat room and the two began a sexual relationship — unprotected — for about a month before she revealed her status.

Dunn, explained that he did not use a condom because Bolden was fit and attractive, and somehow that translated to her being disease-free. He added that upon hearing Bolden’s revelation his initial intent was to “rough her up,” but then she joked about infecting him at which point Dunn says, “I just went crazy.” He slit her throat, leaving Bolden’s two young children to discover their mother’s body.

Dunn does not yet know if he has been infected, and hasn’t expressed any regret for the murder. “She killed me and that is hard to feel sorry,” he said.

You know who I feel sorry for? Dunn’s wife and children, and Bolden’s kids. Two grown folk wanted to act beyond messy and now two sets of children are likely missing a parent. I can’t even imagine what Dunn’s poor wife is dealing with having to lose a husband to a jail cell, explaining to her children why “Daddy’s gone,” and fretting about her own HIV status because her husband wanted to cheat (and without a condom?!).

There’s plenty of blame to go around here.

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