Click the image below to watch my interview on @NIGHTLINE last night, discussing (white) women and street harassment. I’m amazed by the reaction to this video (10 million views). I’m glad street harassment is a national topic, but stunned by the response to white women’s tears. There’s been an ongoing discussion by Black women about sexual ...

Dear Demetria: My boyfriend cheated and abandoned me and my kids. I didn’t even know he was leaving. I came home and his things were gone. I started dating a great guy, but after a year my ex has returned and wants to get married. The new guy has been there for that year, helping ...

Was I the only one who had absolutely no idea that people could permanently change their eye color with surgery? Apparently I was stuck in the ’90s, thinking that colored contacts, which never look real, were the only option. Who knew? Apparently Tameka “Tiny” Harris—celeb mom, wife of rapper Clifford “T.I.” Harris and reality-TV star—did. ...

Dear Demetria: My fiance told me to pick out an engagement ring. We found one that we both liked and was within the budget. He asked for specifications and pictures. I sent them to him. I asked if he was going to get it and he said I would get what I wanted. Now I ...

Dear Demetria: A man I’m seeing for just a few weeks told me to “just pick me” when I was talking about the difficulty of dating for educated black women. I’m confused because the fact that I was talking to him means I want him to pick me. I’m not sure what else I need ...

Dear Demetria: “I got a tattoo of my man’s name. We were supposed to do this together. He said he would write mine. Instead, he does initials. I’m pissed and feel quite stupid because I think he tried to make it vague. My initials are A.S.K. I asked him why he didn’t write out my ...

On September 18, I met up with Zane at The London hotel in New York City to discuss her latest project, the film adaption of “Addicted”. Admittedly, I was a little nervous, which is both weird and totally expected. I’ve interviewed ALOT of A-Listers over the years and never batted a lash, even people I ...

Dear Demetria: My best friend, who lives with her boyfriend, got into a car accident. Via mass email, she asked all her friends for money to help with the expensive repair. I said to her privately that her boyfriend should be handling that, not us. She called me judgmental and unrealistic, then we fought about ...

Dear Demetria: Is it polite for a man to ask a lady to trim herself “down there”? She really likes me to give her oral, but it’s difficult with so much growth. I’ve hinted about it, but she never seems to get it, and I’m considering the direct approach. Just don’t want to offend her, ...

  If you ask Demetria Lucas what she thinks, be prepared for a jolt of raw reality. For the past few years life coach Lucas has dished out advice on everything from bad BFFs, falling for your FWB (friend with benefits) and freaky sex at her website, A Belle in Brooklyn, and in her column, Ask ...