On September 18, I met up with Zane at The London hotel in New York City to discuss her latest project, the film adaption of “Addicted”. Admittedly, I was a little nervous, which is both weird and totally expected. I’ve interviewed ALOT of A-Listers over the years and never batted a lash, even people I ...

Dear Demetria: My best friend, who lives with her boyfriend, got into a car accident. Via mass email, she asked all her friends for money to help with the expensive repair. I said to her privately that her boyfriend should be handling that, not us. She called me judgmental and unrealistic, then we fought about ...

Dear Demetria: Is it polite for a man to ask a lady to trim herself “down there”? She really likes me to give her oral, but it’s difficult with so much growth. I’ve hinted about it, but she never seems to get it, and I’m considering the direct approach. Just don’t want to offend her, ...

  If you ask Demetria Lucas what she thinks, be prepared for a jolt of raw reality. For the past few years life coach Lucas has dished out advice on everything from bad BFFs, falling for your FWB (friend with benefits) and freaky sex at her website, A Belle in Brooklyn, and in her column, Ask ...

  There’s been a Facebook photo floating around lately in which a man details an odd occurrence on a date:   I have no idea which group was asked this query, and in all my years—10-plus—listening to dating anecdotes from thousands of people and advising or coaching people through various mishaps, I have never heard ...

  Alicia* called her boyfriend to tell him she wanted out of their relationship. After all, she was a married mother of three and had only taken a lover to get revenge on her husband, who had cheated on her years prior. Her logic in starting an affair was shaky, but Alicia, 44, had been ...

  ‪‪This the latest update in the ongoing saga that AskFM and Twitter users have deemed, aptly, #BCPills. A quick recap if this is your introduction to this year-plus long saga: Guy is paying for BC pills for his lady, discovers she isn’t taking them. Confronts her. She’s four months pregnant. It all goes downhill ...

My ex broke up my last relationship, but I forgave him and we became cordial. When we were together, he treated me like crap, but in the spirit of forgiveness, I moved on and told him we could be friends but we were never getting back together. He kept spending money on me, insisting that ...

Remember that time I went to San Jose for the 10th BlogHer convention and I interviewed Kerry Washington? You do?! Great  There’s video. Scroll down. You don’t? A quick refresher. (You can read the full story here): Shortly after I get settled backstage on Saturday, in walks Kerry. . Frankly, I wasn’t expecting her yet. Most ...

  Last week, seemingly like everyone else, I was discussing the death of Michael Brown in Ferguson, Mo. In a private email chain, I shared some of my un-PC thoughts about Ferguson Police Chief Tom Jackson’s press conference, in which Jackson alleged that Brown had robbed a convenience store prior to his life-ending encounter with Officer ...