Dear Demetria:  I am against cheating. I won’t do it, but it feels like I haven’t truly lived. I went to school, got married, had a baby. I feel like my husband’s had a full life. He’s traveled all over the world, done two deployments and is settled. I haven’t even started. I feel ...

Occasionally, readers have queries that don’t fit conveniently into the ask.FM box. My general rule, is that if it’s too long to fit, it’s a question that requires coaching (or maybe therapy) instead of a quick answer. (If you have a question that falls into the in-need-of-coaching category, hit me up: coachedbybelle at gmail dot ...

Ugh. Because some humans are absolutely awful. Yesterday, the Huffington Post ran an article, “Solange’s Bridal Afro Upsets Beauty Standards“ on the backlash about Solange Knowles’s choice to wear he hair the way she always wears it and the way it grown from her head, on her wedding day. Apparently, this was bad. Writer Kadia Blagrove compiled a ...

I need an explanation. I, probably like you if you’ve come here to read this, have been following the growing allegations of rape against Bill Cosby. Fifteen women have accused him of  rape– six publicly– and networks and content distributors are sprinting to distance themselves from him. Time and Vulture have compiled comprehensive timelines of ...

MJB’S celebrates her 11th anniversary on Dec. 7.  Congrats, Mama! I remember, like everyone else, when she got married and started singing happy songs and people were like, “um, can you be single and more importantly, miserable? Your music was better.” Ugh! I’ve seen her perform live multiple times — annual perk of a former ...

  Last week was hard for black women. Kim Kardashian’s bare ass—and all the white privilege it represents—was everywhere you scrolled, an unintentional attempt to fulfill the directive on the cover of Paper magazine: Break the Internet. Whether you thought her flaunting her big bottom was exceptionally vulgar or artistic homage, you knew that whatever ...

I stopped by Essence, my former home, to share dating and relationships tips with Essence.com viewers. Click the link to view the ...

  Dear Demetria: I’m dating a guy I met through a friend. She introduced him as a friend only but admitted that she used to find him attractive. When he approached me about spending time, I asked her if it was cool and she said, “Of course. Why wouldn’t it be?!” He later tells me ...

Lincoln University President Robert R. Jennings stirred up a lot of trouble for himself when remarks he made in September to female students insinuating that women lied about rape went viral this week. After much public outrage, he apologized on Tuesday.  “My message was intended to emphasize personal responsibility and mutual respect,” Jennings wrote. “I apologize for my choice ...

  Dear Demetria: My girlfriend is 29, working at a call center, in school for her bachelor’s degree and living with her parents. Sadly, she’s a late bloomer. While I wish she was more established, I’m OK. My mother, though, thinks I’m settling. I love my girl, but my circle includes doctors, attorneys, public relations ...