I met a guy I liked. He was digging me—or at least I think he was, but I figure (pure speculation) out he’s not looking for a “wifey,” which he thinks I am. (For better or worse, most men who meet me think this. I’m emitting something evidently.) Either or he’s not feeling me. ...

I was out the other night and spotted a stone cold cutie. Just uber fine for no damn reason. Six-two (check-plus), beard (surprising, but check), maximum swag (check-plus), prettiest teeth like ever (well, until…), and not even chocolate hued (again surprising, but check). Not my usual type at all, so you know he had to ...

”you don’t have to save mine for later. I want mines right now.” -darius lovehall. I have a save for later box. It’s not a friend box (cause you know once you’re in that box, there’s no getting out.) It’s more like a what-i’ll-do-when-I grow-up box, but this one only has men in it. I ...

  I know some of the funniest, most witty and insightful people on the planet. I am pleased to have each one of these nutcases/intellectuals in my life. Day-to-day would be so not amusing nor interesting without their never-ending stream of advice, insights, and (un)intentional humor. They make my life like a primetime dramadey (minus ...

“What are you?” There is only one other question that I am asked on a regular basis that causes me the same level of frustration (guess what it is. It’s not ‘Is that your hair?’) I’m never quite sure how to answer just because I think it is so apparently obvious what I am. I ...

 No more 4am MySpace postings about not being able to sleep or write. Now that that’s over, I’ve started auditioning suitors again and I’m realizing some very unflattering truths about dating. These are just my top TEN general observations. 1. I really feel there is something inherently wrong FOR ME to be sitting in a ...

I’ve tried and I’ve failed. I have numerous male friends who I query daily in my attempts to understand the male psyche. Just when I think I’ve made significant inroads, I realize again that I know nothing at all. I just don’t get how we are all bred in the same culture and society and ...

Never knew that love could hurt like this/ Never I thought I would/ but I got dissed… Before I heal it’s gonna be awhile/ I know it’s gonna be awhile chile’ - E . Badu, Phase 2, Green Eyes Anthony Hamilton sang about Charlene. John Legend sang about Maxine. Cody ChestnuTT sang about Michelle. They’re ...

A Discourse on Dating/ Shoot Me Now Chivalry is not dead. I saw it with my own eyes. A truck pulled up in front of my house. A 20-something man—in a hoodie, Timbs, and jeans got out and OPENED THE DOOR for his lady companion. In a fur-lined bubble jacket and jeans, she stepped out ...

New Yorkers—and after six years here, I consider myself one- are known for being pretty blasé about everything. In a city where there is so much going on, you train yourself not to react to anything unless it’s major. Still, we are some of the most observant people you’ll ever encounter. We listen, we watch, ...