AskFM 3rd #DNADad UPDATE: The Return of Bio-Dad



After the last update, many of you rightly guessed that wasn’t the end of  “Bio Dad”. He’s back— and he’s a bigger ass than anyone could have guessed. The reason he doesn’t want anything to do with his son? “It’s not part of the American Dream.” Sigh.

DNADad asks at the end of every update that we pray for him. And apparently folks have been on bended knee. The tables are turning in DNADad’s (and the son’s) favor. While you’re sending up your prayers, go on and say a few words for Bio Dad too. He ain’t right within.

Keep reading to find out why:

DNA/Son, Hi Ms Lucas .I promised I would keep you in the loop. Here goes. I received another email yesterday from my boy’s “bio”, asking if we could meet for lunch around noon. I agree and asked if I could bring my lawyer along. He agreed in fact he insisted that he tag along.‬

 I really didn’t know what to expect. so I tried to mentally prepare myself as much as possible. After exchanging pleasantries we got right down to business. Basically he wants to sign over his rights. I am 99% ecstatic, but there is that 1% that didn’t sit right with me so I just had to ask‬.

I ask him how come he’s so eager to discard his own flesh and blood. His response blew me away. I can’t remember word for word but here is the gist of it:

“Men and women want the American Dream, the house, the car, the dream job, the perfect spouse, 2.5 kids a cat and a dog‬. Along with that dream comes bullsh-, martial probs, lost of funds, aliments and others things. The goal is not to focus on the bad but the American Dream itself. You have to be willing to do what every it takes to stay the course and steer clear of the bullshit. “[Name redacted] falls under bull shit, no offense. I’m sure he’s a great kid, but he not apart of my American dream.”

Ms. Lucas, he says a bunch of other hoopla, but after hearing him call my boy “bull shit”, I tuned him out. I actually had to. I take a look at my Jack D and thought maybe I’ve had a glass too many‬…

I swear I felt the hands of God anchoring me to my seat. It took everything within me to not get up and bust this arrogant son of a b—h in the mandible*.

Long story cut: after confirming DNA we will be able to start getting the paperwork drawn up. My lawyer says he can have the ball‬ [rolling] as early as Monday morning . I can’t rejoice just yet until the ink is dry on paper work.

Ms. Lucas, I grew up with my Dad so I can’t say what it’s like to not have one. I do however have pals that weren’t so lucky. I can’t for the life of me understand men who abandoned their children‬.

We still have a long road ahead of us in fixing this mess. I will continue to keep you posted. As always, pray for us and I will do the same.



*jawbone. I had to look it up. I know some of ya’ll were like “what’s that?” too. LOL. 

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  1. Kiki_Liki says:

    It’s scary that a grown man like that can actually think that following a “dream” is all skittles and rainbows. Calling his son bullshit? Lord, I hope he gets his head right before he impregnates another woman.

  2. Lord. While what Bio Dad is doing is down right disgusting, I am so glad that DNA Dad is being such a great man. He deserves some applause. Kudos, sir. Kudos.

  3. Krissy says:

    Despite how they ended up in this place, it’s altogether better for the son that he’s cared for and loved by a dad that wants him. Biology isn’t everything, that’s for damn sure.

    I wish them all they best and applaud the letter-writer for taking the steps necessary to make sure he’s allowed to be the father he wants to be.

  4. MyShariAmour says:

    Hi Belle:

    This story is WAY to convenient, IMO! Makes the dude who stepped up to the plate look like a superhero. Has the mother of the child reached out to you? For some reason, I just get a not so good gut feeling about this story.

    I could be 100% wrong, but the internet age is crazy and brings crazies out the woodwork. I guess I can assume that since you are so invested you have done your behind the scenes work. No harm no foul, I just feel as something is out of wack here.

    Thanks for the updates!

    • simone says:

      I was just thinking the same thing. The way some things were worded made me go “hmmm sounds like a book”. I didn’t feel something may be up until I read this update.

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