Seven years ago, I was invited to a rooftop soirée, an industry- only event for women. It was a Who’s Who of industry professionals. I knew their names and faces. They didn’t know mine. A friend and her friends were annoyed by the prevailing idea of women in “the industry.” They were the types that ...

In many ways, I’ve learned to detach from some of the hard scenarios that come up on Ask.FM. It’s a defense mechanism to keep me from being weighed down all the time with other folks’s problems. But every once in awhile I get caught up. This story stayed with me. A man wrote in recently ...

I’ve noticed a pattern lately. When I write about some aspect of my life, I find myself “saying”, “I don’t usually get nervous, but…” I‘m antsy a lot these days. I wasn’t sure if it was some reaction to beginning to think of myself as a real adult (and the contrasting feeling of not feeling ...

My flight from San Jose landed at 5:15AM yesterday morning. I got home to find out I was locked out. (Long story.) Finally got in at 7AM, laid down to actually sleep (because plane sleep sucks even though I finally bought a plane pillow, which helps immensely). And then when I couldn’t sleep though I ...

  Dear Demetria: I’m back! Remember me? Bad BFF? Well, quick update … I am engaged to the ex of my ex-BFF. Crazy how things work out, right? I hope all women learn a lesson from this: Never, ever pass up true love. Loyalty is essential but has its limits. I’m glad I was brave ...

I was honored to be interviewed by the lovely ladies over at The Every Girl back in June. They made me sound like I have it all together. They’re kind. The truth? On the morning the photographer showed up at my house, I overslept. I was up until the wee hours cleaning my apartment, ambitiously ...

Remember a couple weeks ago when I saw “For Colored Girls…” as a play, for the first time? (If not, click here.) There was this moment in the “green room” (which was not green, just a conference room where the held the actresses/ hosts/experts, etc.) where 30-40 Black women needed to rehearse the closing song ...

  I got up early this AM (Friday) and took a ferry to Isla Taboga. I left too early to grab free breakfast at the hotel, so I found a hotel on the island that was still serving it. The plan was to head to the beach after and do nothing. Yes, I have to ...

You know what is my biggest issue being in Panama? Stopping me from me. I keep looking for things to do to keep me busy: a walk here, a ferry there, a cab here, a look-see there, etc. I set my alarm this morning for 6:30AM planning to head to Isle Taboga, a little island ...

It took me 12 hours to get to Panama. I’d planned for 8. Actually it took me 6 days and 12 hours. Let me explain.I was supposed to leave for Panama on July 10, the day after my birthday. I bailed on the latter half of my surprise party to get home early because I ...